1. Time machine

Days pass quietly and life is just like the expected routine that is being repeated. I am a normal girl who might behave like a boy with a normal dream, an imaginative big dreamer. I am studying. I am pursuing my first degree. I am taking part in activities. I am socializing with the people around me. I am struggling with my assignments. I am arguing with my colleagues. I am hesitating to go into relationship. I love myself. I love my family. And I love all my friends. I like to sing. I like to write words. I like doing what I love to do. All in all, I was a typical Malaysian university student.

University's Life

But life does have some changes. When I start to discover about my real self, to do a lots of thinking about me myself, to visualize my own destiny in this world… I lost myself again and again until a point I decided that “Okay, that is ME.” I found myself. Here have to speak out my appreciation to a sweet daddy who loves to share and guide me along the way.

Recently, I started to realize my dreams. I invented a special time machine for myself. I used to disbelief on this kind of things, but again beliefs changes as time changes. On the testing day, I proudly spelled out. “One…Two…Three…GO!” I pressed the green button in front of me.

Time Machine


BLANK.

I cannot see things for a few seconds. I cannot even hear a single sound. Is this another world? However, I was calm both mentally and physically. The feeling is just nice enough for me to say cheese like what I always do while I am taking photograph.

BANG!

Ouchhh…it is painful. I gently open my eyes and found myself sitting on the floor in my own room. I will say it is no different at all except that the calendar is a year in advanced after that few minutes. Surprisingly, I am looking at my degree certificates. Wow…I got myself graduated with a first class honors, a CGPA of 3.902! What am I going to do next? What am I having now? How I want my life to be? A sudden time pass is exciting yet confusing. It’s time for me to take a break, so I can plan and take action starting tomorrow!

Future

This is one of the question I think about the most recently. Who I am and how I want to be in the future.

Many elders always said, only when you know your direction and goals, you'll take action to achieve them. However, I may be too greedy. Till now, I cannot determine what is the most important one inside my mind because there are too many ideas. I always been asking myself, can you choose all options that you have thought of? Can you have so many different lifestyle and characters? I guess the answer is a No. That's mean I need to make a choice.

Before I do make up my mind, now i shall let my imagination grow in an infinite momentum. Let's see what is my future all about...

Dying for living

I read this in the morning. And I felt a big 'bang' in mind...am I dying to die or to live? What is live means? Below are the few sentences that caught my attention...

First, I was dying to finish my high school and start college
And then I was dying to finish college and start working
Then I was dying to marry and have children
And then I was dying for my children
to grow old enough
so I could go back to work
But then I was dying to retire
And now I am dying...
And sudddenly I realized
I forgot to live

Please don't let this happen to you
Appreciate your current situation
and enjoy each day
..old freind

To make money we lose our health,
and then to restore out health we lose our money...
We live as if we are never going to die,
and we die as if we never lived...

Is this sound similar to what we had experienced before or what we had gone through until this particular moment? To me, it certainly is...I have been dying to finish my high school and all sort of tests, hoping everything to reach an ending soon. But I wish from this moments onwards, I am relaxing to enjoy my uni life, my career and fulfill my dreams. U too, don't ever forget to live~

Day It Forward

It is a super nice motivation movie!

The concept of "Paying it Forward" by an eleven years old boy is just simply fantastic. By each of us helping 3 person, and the three person will have to paid us back by just helping another three persons in need, the another three being helped help another three person and so on...

Can you ever imagine that mutiply effect of this? So many people will be helping around and we can change the world to a real harmony place to stay around. Maybe you will asked why should i start to help others first? Well, someone will need to take initiative first right? As Trevor said, by paying a little bit more attention to the people around us, identified their needs, we can help them to have a better life. That's the way we can change the world, first by changing ourselve to love others.

So...let's start to help others! ^^

There's a hole in my sidewalk (by Portia Nelson)

Chapter One
I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost...I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter two
I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in again. I cant believe I am in this same place. But, it isn't my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter Three
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in...it's a habit...but, my eyes are open. I know where i am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.

Chapter Four
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.

Chapter Five
I walk down another street.

Have you fall down before? They said fall into enough holes and we will become "Whole".

下一步，该怎么走

这是我最近在读的一本书（何权峰著），很有意思。所以把内容减缩（其实是目录啦）和大家分享顺便也提醒自己。

当害羞的时候，把自己忘了。
当欠缺不足的时候，数数你拥有的幸福。
当不顺心的时候，把焦点放在美好的事物上。
当犹豫不决的时候，使用一下富兰克林的方法。
当遇到问题的时候，改变问话方式。
当担心忧虑的时候，安排三十分钟忧虑时间。
当听到流言的时候，必须过三关再说。
当彷徨失措的时候，你可以用归零思考。
当失败的时候，把错误当经验。
当压力太大的时候，让肌肉放松下来。
当紧张不安的时候，尽可能的呼气。
当懊悔的时候，精力集中在[现在我能做什么]。
当愤怒的时候，从一数到十。
当怀恨的时候，饶了别人让自己解脱。
当争吵的时候，不说最后一句话。
当被批评侮辱的时候，用漠视取代对抗。
当情绪低落的时候，尽速转移焦点。
当心情不定的时候，只要观察而不认同。
当疲劳倦怠的时候，假装积极热情的样子。
当乏味无趣的时候，练习[新生活运动]。
当痛苦的时候，首先要做的就是放下。
当不快乐的时候，不要预设条件陷入昆剧的时候。
当寂寞的时候，主动付出爱心与关心。
当忧郁的时候，先诊断，再治疗。
当嫉妒的时候，不要跟别人比。
当不满的时候，去想想更糟的人。
当害怕的时候，哪里痛，就往那里扎。
当顾虑太多的时候，做对的事，不当对的人。
当不好拒绝的时候，just say NO。
当挫折的时候，给什么，就要什么。
当患得患失的时候，注重过程，不在意结果。
当负担太多的时候，把[加法]改成[减法]。
当忙乱的时候，刻意慢半拍。
当沟通不良的时候，先听再说，以问为主。
当感情失和的时候，列出十个缺点，视而不见。
当情人变心的时候，随他去吧！
当陷入困局的时候，站在较高的地方看看自己。
当放不下的时候，想像你已经不在人世了。
当失去的时候，去享受，并分享所有一切。
当效率不张的时候，善用时间三步骤。
当迷失方向的时候，快设定目标。
当压抑的时候，把情绪发泄出来。
当不被尊重的时候，先学会尊重自己。
当怠惰的时候，赶快踏出第一步。

不必忧虑太多未来的事，未来是由现在所产生出来的。如果照顾好现在，就等于是照顾了未来。能为未来作的最好准备，就是把今天作好；如果希望明天会更好，那应该做的就是把今天先过好。大家的每一天都要加油开心咯！

One day event at One Utama

Thanks for the opportunity given to participate in this event. It is a good experience as I learn a lot from Catherine. You may wonder what event is that. If you have became a promoter before, that’s it! But of course we are doing a little more lar. We have our selling booth, ring toss and computer games, photo taking, and the “Save the playtropolis” game stations.

I have some happy and sad moments. I will say the whole event was a success and I am very happy working with all my old and new friends. However, some situation do occurred and I only see the effect after this. Some of their feedbacks are not very positive. Well, this is beyond my control. Although is differ from what I wish and expected, I will thought it is just a job.

The most valuable lesson I learned from this is to make sure everything we do must have its reason behind. Another thing is to get everything done with care, as to get verification from both supplier and receiver. I also got the chance to learn better about my friend’s character. I wish in the future I will not be blur blur again, and not causing any inconvenience or trouble to the others.



P.S. Wana say a big sorry to my brother, Joe and my dear...as i forgot to buy him vegeterian food and less one pack of rice for her...

Angels and Demons

It is true that the world got both angels and demons? How should we differentiate them? Can someone behave like angel but actually act like a demon or vise versa?

Yesterday I went to watch this movie, with an angel. The show is very interesting. For your information, Angels & Demons is a 2009 film adaptation of Dan Brown's novel of the same name, released on May 15, 2009. It is the sequel to The Da Vinci Code (2006), another Brown film adaptation, although the novel Angels & Demons was published and takes place before the novel The Da Vinci Code. Tom Hanks reprises the lead role of Robert Langdon which I like him so much.

In real life, human sometimes can be the angels when they are having positive emotions; and they will become demons when they are having negative emotions. Can we control our emotions? Yes, but sometimes we do let the emotions to conquer our thoughts and we lose our temper. Does it occur frequently? Yes, then it is too bad. It’s time for you and me to make self-adjustment. To me, both our positive and negative emotions are easily affecting other’s feeling too. It just likes a virus that will spread out to a few miles away in seconds. It can also be the sparks that lead to a terrible fire.

Tonight, I am going to make a decision and held a discussion. It may cause some conflict among friends or even emotion explosion of my dear, but I feel it is necessary to do so and it is one of the best solutions we could made. I urge for strength and bravery to help me go through this. All I wish is to have a happy holiday and everyone is enjoying their stay with each other in the remaining weeks… cheers~

中庸之道

中庸为之德也,中正不偏
诚之者,人之道也
诚则明矣;明则诚矣

中庸为之德也 = 中庸的基本原则是“允执其中”，即把握适当的限度，兼顾事物的不同方面，保持事物的平衡，以使言行合乎礼所规定的道德标准 。德，是一个人或社会好的内在的品格和价值观。所以，中庸就是作为道德修养的原则和方法。

中正不偏 =‘中’是中正、中心，‘不偏’是指形體上、思想上都要自然中正，獨立自主。即用中正不偏的態度與立場，深入人生為本的事事物物的根本核心，窮究他底真相。解決一個問題，必須以中正不偏的立場，從關涉到的各方面去考察，在各方面結合點上深入推究，徹底了解問題的真相，才能得到合理的解決。

诚则明矣;明则诚矣 = 由真诚而自然明白道理，这叫做天性；由明白道理后做到真诚，这叫做人为的教育。真诚也就会自然明白道理，明白道理后 也就会做到真诚。

诚之者,人之道也 = 诚实是天道的法则；做到诚实是人道的法则。天生诚实的人，不必勉强为人处事合理，不必思索言语得当。人之道，是指做人的道理或法则，就是说追求诚是做人的根本要求。

THE WINGS OF BURDEN

An old legend relates that long ago God had a great many burdens which HE wished to have carried from one place to another on earth. So HE asked the animals to lend a hand. But all of them began to make excuses for not helping: the elephant was too dignified; the lion, too proud; and so on.

Finally the birds came to God and said, "If you will tie the burdens into small bundles, we'll be glad to carry them for you. We are small but we would like to help."

So God fastened upon the back of each one a small bundle, and they all set out walking across the plain to their destination. They sang as they went, and did not seem to feel the weight of their burdens at all. Every day the burdens seemed lighter and lighter, until the loads seems to be lifting the birds, instead of the birds carrying the burdens.

When they arrived at their destination, they discovered that when they removed their loads, there were wings in their place, wings which enabled them to fly to the sky and the tree tops.

They had learned how to carry their burdens, and their loads had become wings to carry them nearer to God.

Burdens we carry for others may become wings of the spirit, to lift us into
happiness such as we have never known.

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Learn from the past, live in the present and work for the future.

P.S. A great story i read and wish to share with others. Enjoy!^^

Frustration vs Decision

Emotionally, i easily felt frustrated this few days. It isn't the normal me anymore. And many thoughts cross my mind and i just feel to make some decision to get myself out of all the things. But it is right to do this? it may lead to unpleasant feeling in the future. I am wondering what cause this? It is too much work load? tiredness? mentally stress? hatred? or simply not enjoying what i am doing? I feel like suffering cognitive dissonance too. I'll talk about it next time.

Let's see what is frustration about. Frustration is an emotional response to circumstances where one is obstructed from arriving at a personal goal. The more important the goal, the greater the frustration. It is comparable to anger and disappointment. Sources of frustration may be internal or external. Internal sources of frustration involve personal deficiencies such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations that prevent one from reaching a goal. Conflict can also be an internal source of frustration when one has competing goals that interfere with one another. External causes of frustration involve conditions outside the person such as a blocked road; or conditions linked to the person's actions but not directly such as lack of money, or lack of sexual activity. In psychology, passive-aggressive behavior is a method of dealing with frustration. According to N.E. Miller "frustration produces instigation to a number of different types of response, one of which is an instigation to some form of aggression."

The symptoms of frustration is to avoid responding in ways that intensify rather than ameliorate the problem. The main point to remember is that the affected person is often not in a rational, problem-solving frame of mind and is, therefore, not attuned to the "facts" or to logical procedures for dealing with his situation. Some frustrated people need to be guided back to "reality". They cannot be reasoned with in their present mental state. Listening with understanding to such a person is one effective way to reduce frustration. Talking to a sympathetic listener provides a way for him to vent his feelings and regain control of himself.

Well, how do it related to decision making? Decision making can be regarded as an outcome of mental processes (cognitive process) leading to the selection of a course of action among several alternatives. Every decision making process produces a final choice. If the mental process is not fuction rationally, how can we make a wise decision? How can we think in a true and fair state? So, i'll say we cant make a choice when we are frustrated, but sharing your feeling will help to clarify some situation where we can have a new perspective to look at things, to know how the others think about the same issue. Give some time to the mind, rest and stay calm to think back before making the final decision. By this time, the consideration shown by the other party will make an important role and this may totally change the situation.

Here, sharing some tips on how to handle frustration, which will be useful to myself and who is needed.

1. Ask Yourself, “What Is Working in This Situation?”
There's something that’s working and that will give you a clue of what direction to focus on.

2. Keep an Accomplishments Log
The log will help to highlight where you were the most effective and where you need to work harder.

3. Focus On What You Want to Happen
Go back to the big picture. It doesn’t offer a solution to the problem. The important thing is knowing the answer to the following two questions:
- What do you want to happen differently this time?”
- What do you need to do in order to get there?

4. Remove the “Noise” and Simplify
When you’re trying to solve a problem, you can get so wrapped up in trying to find a solution that you add unnecessary clutter, noise, and tasks to a project because you thought they “might” be a solution.

5. Multiple Solutions
You always have options. You just need to brainstorm and figure them out. Just knowing that you have lots of options will help to make you feel better.

6. Take Action
As Thomas Edison said, “Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up” and “Surprises and reverses can serve as an incentive for great accomplishment.”

7. Visualize a Positive Outcome to the Situation
See yourself achieving your desired outcome. What will it look like? What will it feel like? What will you say? How will you feel? Take the time to visualize it and really feel it.

8. Stay Positive
Sometimes, things seem much worse simply because we’re tired or mentally drained. Taking a break and remembering to keep your sense of humour can help. A positive mind is far more open to solutions and answers than a negative one that thinks it’s just “hopeless” and thinks “what’s the use?”

Cool? Thanks to http://www.life-with-confidence.com/frustration.html.

Before i end this topic today, there are some great quotes about frustration i had found.

Frustration is the compost from which the mushrooms of creativity grow. (Tumerica)

Our frustration is greater when we have much and want more than when we have nothing and want some. We are less dissatisfied when we lack many things than when we seem to lack but one thing. (Eric Hoffer)

Success is not built on success. It's built on failure. It's built on frustration. Sometimes its built on catastrophe. (Sumner Redstone)

Cheers~

An Hour lecture with Master Student

Yesterday, Mehan invited me to join his executive class at the Graduate School of Management(GSM) in UPM. It is the first chance i ever had to enter the lecture hall of the master student, of course i will grab this priceless opportunity to experience the difference between the degree level lecture and the master level lecture. Thank You!

It is a very nice experience. To me, it is somehow differ from the normal lecture i had attend. The students who are curious about any point being said will raise up their hands without hesitation to ask for an answer. If in my classes, the lecturer ask whether we have any question, the floor will remain silent. That's indicate no questions we want to ask. But most of the time, the fact is that we need an answer for the question that is in our mind.

During that hour, i learned some new knowledge about the economic system and the public holidays system in Malaysia. I will say, the lecture touched on more current or corporate issues, and the maturity level of the lecture is definitely higher. However i miss the presentation part of the master students. According to what i have been told, i can learn more on their presentation and that is the time we can know the quality of the master student. I really wish one day i can join for the whole lecture, to learn how to present my ideas in a more mature way, and to learn more knowledge that i am lacking of.

Remote Viewing

My brother, Joe share with me about his finding on a few topics. All are related to human mind power, the ability of our mind to make things happen - fast and fullfilling our dreams, desires or needs.

One of the things that i never heard of is this one, remote viewing. I'm sure many of you will have the same thought with me at first. Is this relted to television programme? No. Then what is that? Below is some brief explaination/concept of it:

Remote Viewing (RV) refers to the attempt to gather information about a distant or unseen target using paranormal means or extra-sensory perception. Typically a remote viewer is expected to give information about an object that is hidden from physical view and separated at some distance.

Remote viewing is a fancy name for telepathy or clairvoyance, the alleged psychic ability to perceive places, persons, and actions that are not within the range of the senses. If a "beacon" is used to send psychic images, it is said to be telepathy. If no beacon is used, then it is clairvoyance.

Remote viewing is a kind of psychic dowsing. Instead of a twig or other device, one uses psychic power alone to dowse the entire galaxy, if need be, for whatever one wants: oil, mountains on Jupiter, a lost child, a buried body, a hostage site thousands of miles away, a secret meeting inside the Pentagon or the Kremlin, etc.

It is somehow related to the Hundred Monkey theory. The “Hundredth Monkey Effect” is a supposed phenomenon in which a learned behaviour spreads instantaneously from one group of monkeys to all related monkeys once a critical number is reached. By generalisation it means the instant, paranormal spreading of an idea or ability to the remainder of a population once a certain portion of that population has heard of the new idea or learned the new ability. The story behind this supposed phenomenon originated with Lawrence Blair and Lyall Watson, who claimed that it was the observation of Japanese scientists.

resources taken from,
http://skepdic.com/remotevw.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hundredth_Monkey_Effect

Great Quotes

1> A "NO" uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a "YES" merely to please or worse to avoid trouble. (Gandhi)

2> "when i let go of what i am, I become what I might be." (Lao Tsu)

Somebody remind me that the "truth" will set me free, but first, it will piss me off!

Since i back in UPM, the normal busy routine life begin. Almost every night i got different meetings, almost everyday i just spend little hours in my room just to sleep, almost every time i am asking myself what is the point of doing this? Am i learning? Or just wasting my time? Sound like i lost myself in the battle fighting over mental tiredness. Maybe this is an attitude problem. Anyway, life continue. I will do my part as best as i could. Those wondering is just a break time for me to gasp some free air.

Back to the first quote. Sometimes to say "YES" is difficult, especially when we are asked to do things that we are not actually willing to do it. But to say "NO" is much more difficult than "YES because of many reasons such as do not want to hurt others feeling, do not dare to reject that particular people or try to avoid trouble of saying no. I guess many of us have this kind of experience. It take a lot of courage and need lots of bravery to choose any alternative given to us, and thus to say "YES" or "NO" to those options given. Sometimes is really hard to determine what we want in our life, but holding on our own principles will definitely let our life have more laughter and we live happier. What is my principles? To stay happy and enjoy every moment in each beautiful day.

It is quite confusing when i see this quote. When you let go of what you are, you become what you might be. But i like this very much after i thought a few times about it. Just imagine, if i can let go of myself at this point( what i am currently), that i am not a student who are studying accounting now, then i might be doing something different like taking other courses or working on some fun stuff; i might have become the person that is the true me suppose to be. In another thought, imagine i wish to become an artist or novelist instead of an accountant in future, and i am brave enough to let go what i have and what i am now to start a new life, i do can become the one i wish i might be. To me, it is as well as when we are facing the most troublesome situation, we can let go of it and restart our life...reborn to become what you might be. Have i confuse myself? Or i have confuse you?
The matter in my mind now is to find out what i want to be; how i want to be in future and who is the person deep inside my soul before i can let go myself to change from an ugly caterpillar to the pretty butterfly!

Hope all of us have a good think about all the great quotes that have a profound and deep meaning. Enjoy and cheers for the day ^^

Economy Crisis

If we have the right perceptual filter, and know how to turn threat into opportunity, w can survive when the economy is down. How do we survive? How do we turn threat into opportunity? How can we value we have the right filter about all the situation around us?
All this questions go to one answer. If god closed a door, he will open another window for you. But the only matter is we need to work a little bit more to find the hidden window. Once we found it, we'll have the idea to continue what we should have do. Salary is not the very most important thing to value a job security, instead what we can learn to pre-occupied ourselve to be in a better post in future should be the main concern for this moment.
So, good luck for all job-seeker and employee. Work hard to prepare for economic boom!