Frustration vs Decision

Emotionally, i easily felt frustrated this few days. It isn't the normal me anymore. And many thoughts cross my mind and i just feel to make some decision to get myself out of all the things. But it is right to do this? it may lead to unpleasant feeling in the future. I am wondering what cause this? It is too much work load? tiredness? mentally stress? hatred? or simply not enjoying what i am doing? I feel like suffering cognitive dissonance too. I'll talk about it next time.

Let's see what is frustration about. Frustration is an emotional response to circumstances where one is obstructed from arriving at a personal goal. The more important the goal, the greater the frustration. It is comparable to anger and disappointment. Sources of frustration may be internal or external. Internal sources of frustration involve personal deficiencies such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations that prevent one from reaching a goal. Conflict can also be an internal source of frustration when one has competing goals that interfere with one another. External causes of frustration involve conditions outside the person such as a blocked road; or conditions linked to the person's actions but not directly such as lack of money, or lack of sexual activity. In psychology, passive-aggressive behavior is a method of dealing with frustration. According to N.E. Miller "frustration produces instigation to a number of different types of response, one of which is an instigation to some form of aggression."

The symptoms of frustration is to avoid responding in ways that intensify rather than ameliorate the problem. The main point to remember is that the affected person is often not in a rational, problem-solving frame of mind and is, therefore, not attuned to the "facts" or to logical procedures for dealing with his situation. Some frustrated people need to be guided back to "reality". They cannot be reasoned with in their present mental state. Listening with understanding to such a person is one effective way to reduce frustration. Talking to a sympathetic listener provides a way for him to vent his feelings and regain control of himself.

Well, how do it related to decision making? Decision making can be regarded as an outcome of mental processes (cognitive process) leading to the selection of a course of action among several alternatives. Every decision making process produces a final choice. If the mental process is not fuction rationally, how can we make a wise decision? How can we think in a true and fair state? So, i'll say we cant make a choice when we are frustrated, but sharing your feeling will help to clarify some situation where we can have a new perspective to look at things, to know how the others think about the same issue. Give some time to the mind, rest and stay calm to think back before making the final decision. By this time, the consideration shown by the other party will make an important role and this may totally change the situation.

Here, sharing some tips on how to handle frustration, which will be useful to myself and who is needed.

1. Ask Yourself, “What Is Working in This Situation?”
There's something that’s working and that will give you a clue of what direction to focus on.

2. Keep an Accomplishments Log
The log will help to highlight where you were the most effective and where you need to work harder.

3. Focus On What You Want to Happen
Go back to the big picture. It doesn’t offer a solution to the problem. The important thing is knowing the answer to the following two questions:
- What do you want to happen differently this time?”
- What do you need to do in order to get there?

4. Remove the “Noise” and Simplify
When you’re trying to solve a problem, you can get so wrapped up in trying to find a solution that you add unnecessary clutter, noise, and tasks to a project because you thought they “might” be a solution.

5. Multiple Solutions
You always have options. You just need to brainstorm and figure them out. Just knowing that you have lots of options will help to make you feel better.

6. Take Action
As Thomas Edison said, “Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up” and “Surprises and reverses can serve as an incentive for great accomplishment.”

7. Visualize a Positive Outcome to the Situation
See yourself achieving your desired outcome. What will it look like? What will it feel like? What will you say? How will you feel? Take the time to visualize it and really feel it.

8. Stay Positive
Sometimes, things seem much worse simply because we’re tired or mentally drained. Taking a break and remembering to keep your sense of humour can help. A positive mind is far more open to solutions and answers than a negative one that thinks it’s just “hopeless” and thinks “what’s the use?”

Cool? Thanks to http://www.life-with-confidence.com/frustration.html.

Before i end this topic today, there are some great quotes about frustration i had found.

Frustration is the compost from which the mushrooms of creativity grow. (Tumerica)

Our frustration is greater when we have much and want more than when we have nothing and want some. We are less dissatisfied when we lack many things than when we seem to lack but one thing. (Eric Hoffer)

Success is not built on success. It's built on failure. It's built on frustration. Sometimes its built on catastrophe. (Sumner Redstone)

Cheers~